Yawancin ma’aurata suna kuskuren tunanin cewa saduwa dole sai an yi ta da gaggawa.
Wannan tunanin yana jawo matsaloli da dama, musamman ga mace wadda jikinta ke buƙatar lokaci kafin ta shirya karɓar saduwa.
A zahiri, saduwa cikin natsuwa ita ce mafi ƙara soyayya, jin daɗi da kuma lafiya a tsakanin ma’aurata.
Me Yasa Gaggawa Ke Lalata Saduwa?
Mace ba ta shirya ba – Jikin mace yana buƙatar lokaci kafin ya fitar da ruwa da sassauta gabanta.
Rashin jin daɗi – Gaggawa na iya jawo zafi, ƙunci da rashin gamsuwa.
Raguwar soyayya – Idan namiji yana gaggawa kullum, mace na iya jin ba a damu da ita ba.
Matsalar lafiyar jima’i – Gaggawa na iya haddasa saurin kawowa ko gajiya ga namiji.
Hanyoyin Saduwa Ba Tare Da Gaggawa Ba
- Farawa da Soyayya (Foreplay)
Saduwa ba ta fara da shigar azzakari kai tsaye.
– Runguma
– Tattaunawa mai daɗi
– Shafar jiki cikin ladabi
Wannan yana taimaka wa mace ta samu kwanciyar hankali. - Sauraron Jikin Mace
Namiji ya kula da: – Numfashin mace
– Yanayin jikinta
– Ko tana nuna jin daɗi
Idan mace ba ta shirya ba, dole a dakata. - Rage Tunani Akan “Sauri”
Ba tsawon lokaci ne ke da muhimmanci ba, inganci ne.
Wasu mintuna cikin natsuwa sun fi dogon lokaci cikin gaggawa. - Tattaunawa Bayan Saduwa
Tambayar: – “Kin ji daɗi?”
– “Akwai abin da kike so a canza?”
Wannan yana ƙara kusanci da fahimtar juna.
Amfanin Saduwa Cikin Natsuwa
✔️ Ƙara soyayya da amincewa
✔️ Rage damuwa da gajiya
✔️ Ƙara jin daɗin mace
✔️ Inganta lafiyar aure
✔️ Rage rikice-rikicen gida
Gargaɗi Ga Ma’aurata
– Kada ka tilasta saduwa idan mace ba ta shirya ba
– Kada ka ɗauki saduwa a matsayin aikin gaggawa
– Ka tuna: mace tana buƙatar kulawa fiye da ƙarfi
Saduwa ba tseren gudu ba ce. Ita hanya ce ta gina soyayya, fahimta da kwanciyar hankali. - Duk namiji da ya koyi saduwa cikin natsuwa, zai fi samun gamsuwa daga matarsa, kuma aurensa zai kasance cikin farin ciki.
