Jima’i a cikin aure ba wai kawai biyan buƙatar sha’awa ba ne, illa wani muhimmin ɓangare ne na ibada, soyayya, girmamawa da gina zumunci tsakanin miji da mata.
Addini da tarbiyya sun koyar da mu cewa jima’i yana da ladubba kamar yadda kowanne al’amari na rayuwa yake da nasa ƙa’idoji.
Abin takaici, wasu maza suna ɗaukar jima’i a matsayin abin da zai faru ne kawai domin su gamsu, ba tare da la’akari da jin daɗin mace, shiri, ko yanayin zuciyarta ba. Wannan kuskure ne mai girma da kan haifar da matsala a aure.
- Fahimtar Cewa Jima’i Hakkine Na Bangarori Biyu
Namiji ya kamata ya fahimci cewa:
Jima’i ba na namiji kaɗai ba ne
Mace ma tana da buƙata, ji, da bukatar gamsuwa
Tilastawa, gaggawa, ko raina ra’ayin mace na rage armashin aure
Matar da take jin ana mutunta ta, tana bayar da kanta cikin natsuwa da soyayya. - Muhimmancin Shiri Kafin Jima’i
Daya daga cikin manyan ladubban jima’i shi ne shiri (foreplay).
Jima’i ba a fara shi kai tsaye kamar aiki ba.
Shiri ya haɗa da:
Maganganun soyayya
Sumbata cikin ladabi
Runguma
Tausa
Nuna kulawa da kalamai masu taushi
Wannan shiri yana taimakawa:
Mace ta natsu
Gabanta ya shirya
Rage mata zafi
Kara mata jin daɗi - Tsafta: Ginshiƙin Jin Daɗi
Tsafta tana da matuƙar muhimmanci:
Wanka kafin jima’i
Tsaftace baki da jiki
Kauce wa warin zufa ko baki
Namiji mai tsafta:
Yana jan hankalin matarsa
Yana rage mata jin ƙyama
Yana ƙara soyayya tsakaninsu - Kaucewa Gaggawa Da Son Kai
Yawancin mata suna korafin:
Namiji yana gaggawa
Yana gamsuwa shi kaɗai
Bai damu da ita ba
Gaggawa:
Na rage jin daɗin mace
Na sa ta ƙi jima’i a gaba
Na iya haddasa matsalar sanyi a aure
Namiji nagari:
Yana jinkirta kansa
Yana kula da yanayin matarsa
Yana tambayar ko tana jin daɗi - Sadarwa Bayan Jima’i
Bayan an gama:
Kada namiji ya juya ya yi bacci kai tsaye
A nuna kulawa da runguma
A yi magana cikin soyayya
Wannan yana sa mace:
Ta ji ana ƙaunarta
Ta ji gamsuwa a zuciya
Ta ƙara sha’awar mijinta a gaba - Kaucewa Abubuwan Da Addini Ya Haramta
A cikin aure ma akwai abubuwan da bai halatta ba, kamar:
Cutarda mace
Tilastawa
Wulakanci
Saduwa yayin haila
Yin abu da zata ƙi amma aka matsa mata
Jima’i ya kamata ya kasance:
Cikin yardar juna
Cikin mutunci
Ba tare da cutarwa ba - Fahimtar Yanayin Mace
Mace:
Tana da sauyin yanayi
Tana gajiya
Tana iya damuwa
Namiji ya kamata:
Ya fahimci halin da take ciki
Kada ya matsa mata idan ba ta shirya ba
Ya nuna haƙuri da tausayi
Yakamata Ku Sani
Jima’i a cikin aure amincewa ce da Allah, kuma hanya ce ta gina soyayya idan aka yi shi cikin ladabi. Namiji mai hikima shi ne wanda:
Yake girmama matarsa
Yake fahimtar jikinta da zuciyarta
Yake neman gamsuwa ga bangarori biyu
Idan aka bi wadannan ladubba, aure zai kasance mai koshin lafiya, natsuwa, da albarka.
⚠️ GARGADI
Wannan bayani na ma’aurata ne kawai, domin ilmantarwa da gyaran zamantakewar aure, ba don tayar da sha’awa ko aikata haram ba
