A yau mutane da dama—musamman matasa—na rikicewa wajen fahimtar jin sha’awa.
Wasu na ɗauka cewa duk lokacin da zuciya ta motsa ko jiki ya nuna buƙata, sun riga sun aikata laifi. Wasu kuma suna fakewa da cewa “sha’awa ce” suna aikata abubuwan da addini ya haramta.
Gaskiya ita ce:
jin sha’awa kansa ba haram ba ne, amma abin da ka yi da wannan sha’awar shi ne yake iya zama halal ko haram.
Menene Jin Sha’awa A Hakika?
Jin sha’awa wata halitta ce da Allah Ya halicci mutum da ita. Ta shafi:
motsin zuciya
buƙatar kusanci
sha’awar jima’i
jin daɗin soyayya
Da ba don sha’awa ba:
babu aure
babu haihuwa
babu ci gaban rayuwar dan Adam
Saboda haka, addini bai taɓa haramta sha’awa ba.
Me Ya Sa Wasu Ke Tunani Sha’awa Haram Ce?
Saboda yawanci:
sha’awa ce ke kai mutum ga zina
sha’awa ce ke jawo kallon batsa
sha’awa ce ke sa a aikata abubuwan ɓoye-ɓoye
Sai mutane su ruɗe su ɗauka sha’awar ce da kanta haram, alhali aiki ne ake hukunta wa, ba ji ba.
Abubuwan Da Addini Ya Haramta Duk Da Sha’awa Tana Nan
Ga inda sha’awa ke zama haram:
- Yin zina ko kusantar zina
Ko da kana jin sha’awa sosai:
kusantar farji ba tare da aure ba → haram
saduwa kafin aure → haram
Allah Ya ce:
“Kada ku kusanci zina…”
Ba wai “kada ku yi zina” kawai ba, har da duk hanyar da zata kai gareta. - Kallon batsa domin gamsar da sha’awa
kallon tsiraici
kallon hotuna ko bidiyon batsa
bin shafukan da ke tayar da sha’awa
Duk wannan:
yana ɓata zuciya
yana rage darajar aure
yana koyar da kwakwalwa jin daɗi ta haram - Taɓawa, runguma, kiss tsakanin wanda ba aure ba
Ko da:
kuna soyayya
kuna shirin aure
kuna jin junanku
Matukar ba aure ba:
taɓawa da niyyar sha’awa → haram
runguma mai motsa sha’awa → haram
kiss domin jin daɗi → haram - Istimna’i (masturbation) don kashe sha’awa
Malaman Musulunci sun yi bayanai masu tsauri a kai:
yawanci haram
sai a yanayi na tsananin buƙata don gujewa zina, wasu suka sassauta da sharadi
Amma bai zama mafita ta yau da kullum ba. - Yin magana ko rubutu mai tayar da sha’awa da wanda ba aure ba
dirty chat
sakonnin batsa
kiran waya na sha’awa
Ko da babu taɓawa:
zuciya tana zina
kwakwalwa tana koya haram
To Me Addini Ya Halatta Game Da Sha’awa? - Aure
Aure shine:
mafita mafi tsabta
hanyar halal ta gamsuwa
kariya daga batsa da zina
Annabi ﷺ ya ce:
“Ya ku matasa, wanda ya samu iko, to ya yi aure…” - Duk jin daɗi tsakanin ma’aurata halal ne
A cikin aure:
taɓawa
runguma
kiss
wasa
jima’i
Dukkan su ibada ne idan da niyyar tsarkake kai. - Sarrafa sha’awa kafin aure
Addini ya koyar:
azumi
nisantar abubuwan tayar da sha’awa
cika lokaci da ibada
gujewa keɓantawa da mace/namiji
Sakon Fadakarwa Ga Matasa
Jin sha’awa ba laifi ba ne
Amma bin sha’awa ba tare da iyaka ba → hallaka
Duk abin da zai kai ka ga nadama, addini ya riga ya hana shi
Ka tambayi kanka:
Idan wannan aiki zan yi, Allah yana so?
Idan amsa ta zama a’a, ka dakata—even idan sha’awa ta yi ƙarfi.
Kammalawa
Sha’awa kyauta ce daga Allah, amma jarabawa ce a lokaci guda.
Wanda ya koyi:
sarrafa ta
tsare ta
jira halal
shi ne zai samu:
kwanciyar hankali
aure mai albarka
jin daɗi ba tare da nadama ba
Allah Ya tsare mu da aikata haram, Ya sa sha’awarmu ta zama cikin halal. Ameen.
