A yau, mutane da dama suna rikicewa wajen fahimtar wasu kalmomi da ake amfani da su wajen bayyana halayen mata, musamman “harijar mace” da “jarababbiyar mace.” Wannan rikicewa yana jawo kuskuren hukunci, cin mutunci, da ma zalunci ga wasu mata da ba su cancanci hakan ba.
A ArewaJazeera, manufarmu ita ce ilimi da fadakarwa cikin ladabi, bisa gaskiya, addini da fahimtar halittar ɗan Adam.
Menene Harijar Mace?
Harijar mace ba cuta ba ce, kuma ba laifi ba ne. Harija tana nufin:
Mace da Allah Ya halicce ta da karfin sha’awa fiye da matsakaici
Mace mai saurin kamuwa da sha’awar aure
Halitta ce da ta shafi hormones da tsarin jiki
👉 Muhimmi: Harija ba nufin fasikanci ba ne.
Mace na iya zama harija amma tana:
Tsare mutuncinta
Bin dokokin addini
Kame kanta har sai halal ya zo
A Musulunci, jin sha’awa halitta ce, ba haram ba.
Menene Jarababbiyar Mace?
Jarababbiyar mace ita ce:
Mace da sha’awa ta rinjaye ta
Ba ta iya sarrafa kanta ba
Tana iya fadawa abin da addini ya haramta
Jarababbiyar mace ba lallai ta kasance harija ba.
Wasu lokuta:
Rashin tarbiyya
Rashin tsoron Allah
Rashin aure ko kulawa
Gurɓataccen muhalli
sune ke jefa mace cikin jaraba.
Babban Banbanci Tsakaninsu
Harijar Mace
Jarababbiyar Mace
Halitta ce
Halayya ce
Ba laifi ba
Hadari ne
Tana iya kame kanta
Ta kasa kame kanta
Addini bai haramta ba
Addini ya gargadi
Ana bukatar fahimta
Ana bukatar gyara
Kuskuren Da Al’umma Ke Yi
❌ Kiran kowacce mace mai sha’awa da “mara tarbiyya”
❌ Zargin mata ba tare da hujja ba
❌ Maza na anfani da wannan suna zaluntar mata
❌ Rashin bambance halitta da sabo
Wannan kuskure ne babba.
Matsayin Addinin Musulunci
Musulunci:
Ya amince da jin sha’awa
Ya haramta bin sha’awa ta haram
Ya umarci kame kai
Ya halatta sha’awa ne a cikin aure
Manzon Allah (SAW) ya nuna cewa aure kariya ne daga fitina.
Me Ya Kamata A Yi?
Ga Mata:
Ki gane kanki da halittarki
Ki nemi halal idan kina da karfin sha’awa
Ki nisanci abubuwan da ke tayar da sha’awa
Ki nemi ilimi da shawara
Ga Maza:
Kada ku zargi mace da wuri
Ku fahimci halittar mata
Ku kula da matanku ta fuskar soyayya da aure
Ku taimaka, ba cin mutunci ba
Sakon ArewaJazeera
👉 Ba duk mace mai sha’awa jarababbiyya ba ce.
👉 Ba duk jarababbiyar mace harija ba ce.
👉 Ilimi shi ne mafita, ba zargi ba.
👉 Addini ya zo da fahimta, ba wulakanci ba.
