A cikin al’ummar Hausa, ana amfani da kalmar “tuzuru” wajen kiran mutum (namiji ko mace) da bai yi aure ba duk da ya kai wani mataki na shekaru.
Amma tambayar ita ce: shin akwai takamaiman shekara da ake fara kiran mutum haka?
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Shin Akwai Takamaiman Shekara?
A gaskiya:
Babu wata doka ko ƙayyadadden shekaru a Musulunci ko shari’a da ke cewa daga kaza ana zama “tuzuru”.
Abin da ake gani kawai shi ne:
Ra’ayin al’ada
Matsin lambar al’umma
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Ra’ayin Al’umma (Ba Lallai Ne Ya Zama Daidai Ba)
A wasu wurare:
Namiji idan ya kai shekaru 30 zuwa sama ba tare da aure ba, ana iya fara kiransa “tuzuru”
Mace kuma idan ta kai shekaru 25 zuwa 30, wasu na iya fara kiran ta “tuzuruwa”
Amma wannan ra’ayi ne kawai, ba doka ba.
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Me Yasa Wannan Ra’ayi Ba Daidai Ba Ne?
1. Rayuwa ta bambanta
Ba kowa ne yake samun damar aure lokaci guda ba.
2. Aure kaddara ne
Lokacin aure yana hannun Allah.
3. Matsin lamba na iya cutarwa
Yana jawo damuwa, rashin kwanciyar hankali, da yanke shawara mara kyau.
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Abin Da Ya Kamata A Mayar Da Hankali A Kai
Maimakon duba shekaru:
Ka gyara kanka (imani, hali, aiki)
Ka nemi aure da halal
Ka yi addu’a
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Sako Ga Maza Da Mata
Kada ka raina kanka saboda jinkirin aure
Kada ka yanke shawarar aure saboda matsin lamba
Ka jira lokacin da ya dace
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Kalmar “tuzuru” kalma ce ta al’ada, ba ta da tushe a addini.
Aure ba gasa ba ne — lokaci ne, ƙaddara ce, kuma alheri ne idan ya zo a lokacin da ya dace.
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